The Sanctity of Marriage

Christian/non-Christian, I can almost guarantee that this post is not what you think. But I guess we’ll have to see…

Ask almost any Christian to define matrimony and the typical response will be “Marriage is between a walrus and a polar bear.”


But if I really have to explain to you what the church’s view on marriage is, then you must be living beneath the rock…under the rock. Really, though.

The Christian community has done quite a number of pounding their idea of marriage down America’s throat, trying to force Lady Liberty to “Taste and see that the Lord is good!” And if that’s what you like to do, fine. But the outcome is almost like feeding a baby peas… just a mess everywhere. “

“Marriage is between a man and a woman!”

Mmk, thanks. We get it. But the thing I am NOT getting is how Christians are getting all riled up against other groups defiling the “sanctity” of marriage when we’re doing a fine little job of screwing it up ourselves.

The sanctity of marriage, huh?

I’m sorry… I forgot about hearing all the ridicule against pastors joining couples that are unequally yoked. And I am sure that the Lord is pleased with our marriage defiling pre-marital relationships. Or perhaps at our habit of wedding simply because we cannot keep it in our pants any longer. No, I do not see  how anyone could view us as hypocrites. Clearly our equally high divorce rates show that we know what marriage is all about.

Except…we don’t. So I do not understand why the church is always so focused on the sin of everyone else when we have crap within our own pews that we need to fix.

Maybe if we got our own marriage ideals in order, the Lord could use our relationships as examples to the world on what His love is like. But can He even reach us? You look within the church community today and the people seem more concerned about standing on a soapbox against the immoralities of the world then using the soap in the box to get their own tubs clean. And this whole “sanctity of marriage” movement is no different.

It is great and awesome to think that the church wants to have morals concerning marriage. However, what happened to “judge not, lest ye be judged?” I really feel this little “movement” needs to move right on back inside the church. We need to study the plank in our own eye a little more before “reaching out”. Do you really want to protect the sanctity of marriage? Then show it within YOUR marriage. And if you are not married, start with YOUR relationships.

Marriage is commitment. Marriage is servanthood. Marriage is sacrifice. Marriage is not a cute Facebook status. Marriage is a LIFELONG ministry. But most of us are entering into it to gain sexual and selfish satisfaction.

Back in the day, you had to earn the rights to marriage. Men had to work for the hand of a female, and women were trained on how to be a good wife. Now all a man has to do is go online, to a bar, to a club, pick one, and put it on her. And women do not prepare to be wives any further than making wedding arrangements.

Shout out to the people doing it right. But most people are not preparing themselves for marriage anymore. They just jump into them because they are sexually frustrated or lonely and hope they survive. On top of that, we have failed to see the ministry behind it, much less put Christ in the center. And do we really wonder why marriages are failing? Most unions at the altar are not “marriages”. They are lustful links and expressions of selfish sanctification. The Lord does not look at that and say “It is good.” That is not at all what the Lord desires.

“The Lord isn’t pleased with gay marriage!” Well sorry to break it to you, but the Lord is not pleased with a lot of male/female marriages either.  The church thinks that they are “technically” correct in marriage because they involve a John and a Jane. But just because your grounds downtown are different, does not mean that you should go uptown to the chapel and wed. The Lord is not pleased by the differentiation of your private parts alone. Will you sacrifice and love your spouse as Christ loved the church? THAT is what pleases the Lord.

There are great marriages that are honoring God, and that is truly a blessing and an awesome ministry. I believe that the Lord can use great marriages to make great impact. Many seem to think that rallying against gay marriage is going to cause a great revolution. And it might, sure. More power to whatever you and whatever you like to do in your free time. The Lord has the power to change hearts, and however He leads you to minister…don’t let me intrude. I am not and will not get into debates about fighting against gay marriage in comments.

I am being slightly aggressive in this post? Maybe. But this post is not to be spiteful. It is simply to encourage us to examine to marriage “sanctity”…since we seem quite radical about the subject. Do what you do. Change your profile picture to an “X”. Make little rants about how America’s system and culture is getting all corrupted. But until we realize that many of our own marriages are no more “sanctified” than a homo-sexuals binding in the Lord’s eyes …it’s kind of just a hypocritical hyperlink movement.