Nowadays, you’ve got a lot of Christian singles using the scripture “It is not good for man to be alone” as ammunition to hunt matrimony or exterminate their singleness. After all, Adam was the first bachelor and the Lord said that about him.
But what most people fail to realize is that Adam was not moping about in his single state. Adam was straight up chilling in the garden and in fellowship with the Father, not even noticing that he was without something. Then a time came when the Lord declared that it was not good for him to be alone.
Wait. Did you catch that? Adam did not decide for himself when it was time for him to get a mate. The LORD declared when it was not good for Adam to be alone.
The opposite is happening today. Single Christians are taking their own turn at determining when it is no longer fit for them to fly solo. The revving of their engines could be a result of a variety of different things. Their friends are probably all dating and getting married. In fact, some married couples will even tell you that you will feel “incomplete” or that “something is missing” while waiting for a spouse. But I am not so sure that I agree.
Look at the story of Adam. God did not remove Adam’s rib and then make him walk around for days or years feeling inadequate or wondering where his “missing piece” was. This however is the attitude many Christian singles currently have adopted. They limp through the present unhappy and unsatisfied, moaning in agony over their “missing part”.
Hmm. Reminds me of lyrics in “Call Me Maybe” where Carly says: “before you came into my life I missed you so bad…” It does not really make any sense. The Word says that two become one flesh…meaning, they must have been separate. Many are claiming however to already be missing the union before they have it.
If you want to believe that that is why you are unhappy, go ahead. In an honest examination of yourself, you will discover that feeling discontented in your single state it is not because you need another woman or man. It is probably because you are not being that intimate with The Great I Am. Just saying.
God is a good God. He did not cripple Adam or create a period of emotional suffering. God sustained Adam in his alone season. And when He felt it was time for Adam to have a mate, He made it happen in a painless fashion. You remember the story! Adam was put into a deep sleep, and the Lord did a work within him close to his heart. He removed a rib and fashioned it into a woman. When Adam woke up, he barely had time to yawn when God presented him with his missing rib on a silver platter. Enter Eve.
Which brings up another point. God very well could have created Adam and Eve on the same day. But He did not. Eve coming into Adam’s life later was not a mistake. He did not forget. He did not create all the animals with their mates then go “Oops, forgot to give Adam one! My bad bro, here you go!” Nope. He made Adam first and had him alone for a reason. Alone, Adam got to know his duties and established his own fellowship with God. Alone, perhaps you could say, Adam became “all one” with God.
When the Lord saw that Adam needed companionship, He did not immediately give him a woman either. Instead, He gave him a task related to the responsibility he was about to receive. God formed the animals and brought them before Adam to name. Surprise, surprise…. the next day the Lord formed Eve and brought her before Adam to claim.
The Lord did not say: “This is your wife, Adam!” But Adam knew just what to do. He had exercised his authority the day before. Adam knew to call and claim her “flesh of his flesh” and “bone of his bone”. God had prepared him for the moment. Genesis says the Lord brought the animals to Adam to “see what he would call them”. Perhaps He was helping Adam learn to identify in his little animal exercise, so that he might be able to correctly identify Eve!
Likewise, you need to be able to identify your mate or be set for their arrival. Keep God in control and He will prepare and guide you so that you don’t miss it. Stop trying to make your own arrangements. God’s way is the best way. And the easiest. The Lord orchestrated it all. He trained Adam and even brought his chick straight to his face. All Adam had to do was recognize and claim what was in front of him. So slow your roll, yo! If you jump ahead of the game and tell God when it is time to exit your season of singleness, you may miss out on His awesome arrangement.
“It is not good for man to be alone…”
True. But it is important that you do not snatch God’s word out of His mouth and apply it to your life out of order. When HE determines that it is not good for you to be alone, HE will place you in His rest and bring forth the very best for you as He did for Adam. Until then, continue to grow as an individual, doing the tasks He has asked and letting Him sustain you.